Who the fuck argues that love isn't necessary? Love and sense of belonging is a huge cornerstone to any mentally healthy person. I guess you could split hairs on the definition of love...

Take it from someone whose father died before I was born, it fucking matters.

Sigh.

My mom was given up by her parents, whom were migrant workers but that's all that she was told by those in charge. There is some law or statute that people in this country born before a certain year did not have to be legally supplied with all of their birth parent's info. So to this day, her birth parents are a mystery. 

So my mother was put into a large room with a slew of other babies that were given up for adoption for one reason or another. I believe that my mother was put there because she eventually discovered that hers were just unfit parents...  either too destitute or perhaps addicts. It doesnt matter. All of these newborns were in these fucking rooms from the start. Waiting for an adoption that sometimes never came. 

This part of the story is where my mother explained the phrase "failure to thrive". Here is what the internet says:

"Non-organic failure to thrive or psychosocial failure to thrive refers to failure to thrive in a child who is younger than 5 years age and has no known medical condition that causes poor growth. It is caused by emotional deprivation, child abuse. neglect or due to accident"

My mother later learned that DOZENS of her unloved baby peers would just physically GIVE UP. They would die. They would die. They would die. They would die. 

My mother began the stages of failure to thrive. She then was adopted by a wealthy family in upstate NY. They were far from perfect: the mother was emotionally abusive as well, but still loving enough to keep my mother alive. Her brother was also abusive. He just died three weeks ago, which is pretty great. 

Anyways, yeah. My mom is one of the lucky ones. She to this day has innumerable mental and physical health issues, much arguably caused by life start rougher than most of us could imagine. But the rich lady that adopted her did love her. She pulled my mom from the flames at the last second, so to speak. 

The homies Slum and Lucem and I dont really see eye to eye anymore on a lot of subjects. But the reason I respect them is because of shit like this. Common fucking sense and empathy. These guys and myself are still fucking human beings behind our faults. You two, Psyral and Krunk, are self-admitted "emotionless" and all that garbage you say about not feeling feelings. So you literally do not qualify as human beings to me. Not even worth an organ harvest. Who the fuck wants your tainted, hollow organs? May as well get a heart transplant from the BTK killer than y'all.

Fucking morons. 

We're all jaded and emotionless for a while, Then we experience the horror show that is life and grow the fuck up. Well, Some of us. 

And while yes, Love might not be absolutely necessary to live there is much to be said about it's ability to heal and make a person stronger. Finding someone to connect with, someone worth caring about and protecting, in turn makes you start giving a shit about yourself. It's like a self preservation switch gets turned on in your brain. If for some reason it doesn't, it's a good sign that you may have brain damage. 

Like when people at a trump rally clap, cheer and go "Woo! That makes sense!" That's a clear sign of brain damage because, no the fuck it didn't. I don't think he's formed a coherent sentence in his life. 

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Psyral Infection said

Agree, it is beneficial to have love and belonging. 

About the trump thing. I see the same thing at anti-trump rallies too. I think it is an aspect of personal bias. I, being a trump supporter, like him and I see his opponents as not making any sense to me. People against trump see the opposite. An interesting thing to explore is the concept of r/k gene theory. It could explain the difference between liberals and conservatives on a genetic level.   

There is no THEM vs US. You only see Dem and Republican. Lots of us are neither

 I lean on liberal for most issues because I care about other people besides myself and my own close ones, despite actually being disappointed by most everyone I've met. 

If you could step back and see the insanity of what Dobald Trump is, you would freak out and then run back to your own "safe space" with your buddies. Because I understand that. It's more comfortable there. You have formed a place that you can feel secure and correct in your world view. I get that. It is cowardly, but not so simple to just leap out from. I get that. 

Sp go ahead and feel how you do. Just dont negate the importance of love, whether it is figurative or concrete in reality. It is important. And this is coming from a very sadistic, hateful man.

Psyral Infection said

Agree, it is beneficial to have love and belonging. 

About the trump thing. I see the same thing at anti-trump rallies too. I think it is an aspect of personal bias. I, being a trump supporter, like him and I see his opponents as not making any sense to me. People against trump see the opposite. An interesting thing to explore is the concept of r/k gene theory. It could explain the difference between liberals and conservatives on a genetic level.   

How can I put this, I'm not pro or anti trump, I'm pro America and he is fucking it up. Since day one it's been one moronic cluster fuck after another, lying all the time about everything even when he doesn't need to, speaking with the sentence structure of of a cracked out 2nd grader and being an overall embarrassment to the country. Like holy shit, in terms of historical significance he may be the worst thing to happen to America since our ancestors decided slavery was a good idea. 

As for your gene theory bullshit spat out in pathetic effort to not seem mentally insignificant,
There are decent people who want to connect with, understand and protect their fellow human beings.
Then there are buzz word spewing imbeciles who seem consumed only with greed and what they can get out of life, looking for easy answers instead of truth, never facing reality, much more content to live a blissful lie where everything is magic and bad things only happen to bad people la la la la la tune out anything else, and love using fear to justify the theft of liberty. 

Then we factor in being part of a society where life, death and even freedom have a fucking price tag and wonder why we're all going insane. 

P.S.

Dear Mr. Ma$low,

There is research proving that infants will literally die if they are not held enough or they don't feel loved or connected. It stunts the growth hormone, the immune system and the infant's body will shut down. Just because Trump is your president and he tries to do this all the time doesn't mean you get to dismiss facts and research to fit your preexisting views.

When Keanu Reeves said "You need to be happy to live, I don't" I liked him more. Love's the cherry on top for me, earned, not expected. Otherwise it's just stale government cheese.

Chime in from the peanut gallery/i wanna join the adult table.

I totally agree about the baby thing. I believe ive read also something along the lines also of babies needing nurturing to survive. 

Simply asking...

Does one not have to love him/herself or another to accept 'survival mode'?

Tom Hanks in cast away could have just said fuck it at any point in the movie.